Friday, September 8, 2017

Title IX

Dear Heather,
Trump appointee and Education Secretary Betsy DeVos is set to re-work Obama-era guidelines protecting students who are victims of sexual assault on college campuses. She says we need more emphasis on protecting the accused. As a college professor, what is your opinion on this?
John
Milwaukee, Wisconsin

Hi John,
This policy shows DeVos' total and utter lack of understanding of campus life. The laws were put into place when universities failed to protect students who were victims of sexual assault. In fact, many rape cases go unreported because of the burdens put on victims, including public shaming and the difficult nature of proving these cases. In sum, her view is ignorant of the facts, which is not that surprising given she has never worked in an educational institution in her life.
Sincerely,
Heather

Saturday, September 17, 2016

Chris Brown Song

Dear Heather,
Sometimes I am grooving to the heavy beats of a hip hop song and suddenly I realize the lyrics are degrading to women. For example, in the Chris Brown song, Loyal, he constantly refers to women as "bitches" and "hoes." This presents a serious conflict for me. Even though I'm a middle-aged, Caucasian woman, I still occasionally like to drop it like it's hot. What should I do?
Paula,
Phoenix

Dear Paula,
I completely hear you about the lyrics, but you can't let anything get in the way of getting your groove on. Some songs will have to be turned off due to the blatantly misogynistic messages. But, you can also seek out some great artists who combine a good beat with excellent songwriting: Beyonce, Common, Pink, and Justin Timberlake, for example. These are a few artists who will inspire you with great beats and great lyrics.
Keep on dancing,
Heather

Monday, August 15, 2016

Trump No Bueno

Dear Heather,
Do you think the GOP will revise their nomination requirements after allowing the rise of a Presidential nominee who doesn't understand the Constitution?
Just wondering,
Sam, Binghamton

Dear Sam,
Great question. I would certainly hope so. Perhaps giving a citizenship test to those running would remove the unfortunate situation they are in now. Presenting a candidate that doesn't believe in the democratic values of our nation--freedom of speech, of the press, and of religious expression, for example--is a bit of a problem to say the least.
All the best,
Heather

Monday, July 6, 2015

Women's World Cup Fever

Dear Heather,
I was at the game last night and there were so many excited American fans. The fashions were quite a thing to behold. What did you make of the patriotic attire at the final game?
Nicholas,
Vancouver


Dear Nicholas,
I feel that the fashions truly embodied the patriotic spirit of the day. In fact, many outfits appear to have been purchased in the Fourth of July section at Old Navy. Except the bald eagle's head, though. I have never seen that in stores. Perhaps it is available on E-Bay. Though the fashions were inspiring, nothing could match the soaring play of the US Women's Team. Congratulations USA!
Sincerely,
Heather

Monday, June 15, 2015

Bad Shakespeare

Dear Heather,
Would you rather sit through a bad Shakespeare play or be struck by lightning? I was just wondering.
Sam
Woodstock, NY

Hello Sam,
This is a great question. In fact, it's a real toss-up. One would obviously prefer life to death, but in the case of bad theatre--one can easily go to the dark side. You simply can't get back lost time when stuck at a production that's impossible to enjoy. I can offer you a couple words of advice, though. If you are in this predicament again, survey the audience and I am certain you will find someone more miserable than you.
Have a great day,
Heather

Saturday, November 1, 2014

Unwanted Advances

Dear Heather,
I have had a run of bad luck recently, including divorce, a car wreck and my contractor sticking his unrequested tongue down my throat. As someone who tries to look for the meaning in things, I wonder...is there ever a case for just being negative, and not looking for the lesson? Am I required to try to be a good person at all times or can there be dispensation?
Not Feeling New Age
Dallas, TX

Dear Not Feeling New Age,
Given this string of circumstances, I would say you have every right to feel negative. The situation with the tongue really takes the cake. I have discussed this with the AskHeather staff and one thing we decided unanimously is that women must always be prepared to guard against unwanted physical advances. They can come at the most surprising times. Unfortunately, often times the perpetrators don't take no for an answer, which is why we recommend the AskHeather self-defense course.
Sincerely,
Heather

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Relaxing Piano Music

Dear Heather,
My Three-Hour Relaxing Piano Music video just ended. I'm not sure what to do. I'm starting to feel stressed out already. Do you have any advice for me?
Shelly,
Boise

Shelly,
I certainly feel your pain. Step away from the computer, go outside and take a few deep breaths. Then come back to the screen and refresh. That should help. If you need any further info, please don't hesitate to ask.
Sincerely,
Heather